Embarking on a journey in a new country is a challenging endeavor, particularly when faced with the daunting task of discerning whose guidance to trust and which advice to heed. It’s easy to fall into the belief that every encounter holds the promise of well-intentioned support. However, a note of caution is essential.
Allow me to share insights garnered not just from my experiences in Australia but from traversing diverse landscapes across various countries for work and residence. Approaching individuals in a new environment triggers a cascade of questions in their minds:
- Why is he reaching out? What is the agenda?
- How did he reach this far, and what is he hoping to do?
- When must I get involved? Too early, and I may commit too soon; too late, and I may not offer much assistance.
- What can I get from the interaction?
People naturally evaluate the investment of their time, effort, and social capital before engaging. This discernment becomes even more pronounced when new to a country, grappling with the nuances of its place, people, practices, policies, and unwritten rules of engagement. Amidst the whirlwind of adapting to a new environment, the last thing one wants is to inadvertently waste people’s time, making minimal progress save for perhaps sipping numerous cups of coffee (or tea, in my case) and contemplating the worth of the effort.
Let’s be direct about it—there’s no desire to beat around the bush. The objective is to swiftly embark on a journey to establish a new life and be at one’s best. For many, this urgency is compounded by the responsibility of supporting a family in a country where the pressures of the soaring cost of living demand quick action.
In this unfamiliar terrain, you will encounter various individuals, each with their unique approach to engagement:
The Naysayer:
This individual, while expressing pessimism about the system and life’s challenges, offers a valuable glimpse into an alternative viewpoint. Be grateful you’re not in their place. Engage in open conversations to understand their concerns, extracting insights that broaden your understanding of the complexities faced by many.
The Opposer (or The Racist):
A person openly expressing concerns about immigrants, wearing nationalism on their sleeve, requires a kind and understanding approach. Listen attentively and respond with empathy, fostering open dialogue. Showcase the positive contributions immigrants can make to counteract skepticism. Bridge the gap by sharing your experiences and expertise, emphasizing collaboration rather than competition.
The Advisor:
This person, knowledgeable about various topics, especially careers, may provide valuable insights into their journey. Acknowledge their tips and express gratitude for their guidance. Politely move forward, thanking them and seeking additional support as needed. Use their advice as a foundation for your own decisions, appreciating the wisdom shared.
The Lurker:
Observing from the sidelines, this individual might offer kind words but remains hesitant to commit. Politely acknowledge their well wishes and continue your quest for meaningful connections. While they may not actively engage, wish them well and maintain an open channel for potential collaboration in the future.
The Sceptic:
Wary of current trends, the sceptic may discourage risks and exploration. Engage in open conversations, understanding their perspective while expressing your own aspirations. Politely consider their advice, but trust your instincts and emphasize the potential rewards of taking calculated risks.
The Advocate:
A true advocate, unlike the others, acts swiftly and tangibly supports your journey. They actively seek your CV and a short blurb, initiate contact via email, and follow up diligently. They willingly put their reputation on the line to help others out. Advocates share testimonials, connect people via Linkedin (including both parties), open networking opportunities, and provide constructive feedback on CVs. Their support extends to helping with basic documentation, facilitating quicker integration for newcomers.
In the exploration of a new country, humility, a keen ear, and a willingness to contribute positively to the community can pave the way for meaningful connections and a smoother integration into the fabric of your new environment. So, as you navigate this journey, approach it not just as an individual seeking assistance but as a potential contributor to the collective growth and well-being of your new community.
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